8 Dating Dilemmas

When you have genuine intentions of meeting and knowing new people or potential partner. Either through a dating app or has been introduced by a common friend. Periodically the world is surrounded by assholes, and sometimes it can be you or me? Maybe you’re not just aware, or maybe you are! It’s a karmic or a plain lesson from the Universe, and you have to be wary of these types;

1. GHOSTING — the savage of them all! This is someone who suddenly disappears after a few dates or if you’ve been in a relationship with this kind. It is done by a long silent treatment, crickets all over, and whenever. No words at all! Until you get the hint that it’s an end game. The worst kind because sometimes it doesn’t have any pre-warning signs or red-flags. It happens instantly, and you’ll be left wondering what you have done wrong? Until you’re obsessing and yearning to go back with the memories that you had with that asshole. It could mess your mind because you didn’t get any closure, and it’s a hard pill to swallow. To take it like it never happened.
2. SLOW FADE / FIZZLING — the next subtle prick! It’s when someone’s slowdown in communicating or suddenly fizzled out. To somewhat desensitize you with their presence. Until you adapt to not talk to those hoes or jackasses. This is done by someone who doesn’t have the guts to bluntly say, “Hey! This is not what I signed up for… So, I’m going to quit.” It’s like a SOFT NO until you get the hint.
3. CUSHIONING — derived from the word “cushion” is done by romanticizing such as, “I love you BUT…” That someone will make up whatever excuses or reasons just to make you feel less hurt. Wherein fact, they’re doing it for themselves so people would perceive them as nicer or kinder. It’s like they’re placing you towards a soft cushion, a couch, or a bed to prevent you from falling hard in a more visual explanation. When someone is truly deeply in love with you… There are NO excuses or but’s.
4. BENCHING — The main idea of this word came from sports such as basketball, footy, or soccer. Any games that have a waiting bench. It’s done when someone keeps you “on the bench” while that jackass is playing around. Through infrequent conversation and you do meetups if it’s highly favorable for him/her.

Straight face unhappy!

5. RECYCLING — Is someone emotionally unavailable because his/her focus is outright, not with you. You often hear about the EX, their experiences, and stories together. Obviously has hang-ups and considerably wanting to go back. Therefore, you couldn’t rely on this person that he/she’ll be invested in knowing you more. Because behind the dating scenes, he/she might be social-media-ex-stalking, drunk texting, and booty calling. High chance of affair because they have history and familiarity. Which you don’t have yet! Ouch!!!

6. TEXT BLACK HOLE — An illusive act, time-waster, and bluffer. It’s having a never-ending exchange of conversation in any communication channels, but you’ll never meet in person. Some people are just way confident on the other side but scared to unmask themselves. You’ll set up a date and agreed on it. But the jerk on the other side keeps on postponing and making lame excuses to not go and show thy face/s.

7. DTF or Down to Fuck — This is bloody forthright that this person only wants to get laid. Nothing more or less! No time to be wasted because they know that when he/she gets to meet you. It’s boning time! Plainly releasing the itch and stress-hormones. It may be perverted and harsh as it may sound. But it is what it is! Most of this kind are busy, emotionally unavailable, entitled, or some might have tasted their agonizing piece. They see ‘sex’ as a blockage to their heart, guarding their vulnerability, or gearing their unhealed soul — an era wherein you can easily get laid and much harder to reach the purest core. Humans are born to appreciate physiques and aesthetic pleasures. But in the long run, we really desire matching personalities, substance, and genuine connections.

8. CATFISHING — The actors, actresses, and digital-artist. Why? Because they’re too good at photoshop-ing, lightings, and filters. This is blatant lies and disappointing because you’ve been served false-hope. You’re full of enthusiasm that you two are meeting and going on a date. But as it gets closer face to face, Fuck! the “Yay becomes Nay!” Awkward silence, crickets here and there, but you’re trying to be polite. You’re cold-sweating because you want to vamoose, yet you can’t back-out & be rude. So, you waited and get stuck on a date with a catfish. Then you call a friend because you needed saving. I bet they’ll be laughing hard at you! Though it’s bearable to take the laughs and teasing than the agonizing date.

Maybe once or twice when you’re stubborn, you’ll get to meet one of those. So, “Hey! YOU” don’t get wind up with this kind of person. But when you do, and it’s out of hand, take it as a learning experience and don’t project onto someone. Our world is already full of schmuck, distance, and don’t sign-up yourself. You’re way too precious to end up with someone who doesn’t appreciate or knows your true value. Stop wasting time and allowing yourself to take less. Show your ‘IDGAF’ face and stay away.